Happy Friday the 13th Everyone! Oh wait…is this day happy?
I mean, growing up, I was led to believe that any day that the 13th of the month fell on a Friday, bad luck will happen. And the weird thing was that tons of people have claimed that this day was bad luck for them. So naturally, as a child, I was weary of this day and all the terrible things that might happen to me.
It’s interesting how we give power to certain things to control our lives.
For example, have you ever just listened avoided a song because it brings out uncomfortable emotions within you? We give the song an uncomfortable power that forces us to avoid it and everything connected to it.
It’s the same with Friday the 13th. We perceive this day as a bad omen. A day when terrible things will happen to us.
But is it the day that causes bad things to happen?....or is it ourselves?
I have come to learn that the most powerful thing we possess is our minds. Our minds have the power to be our greatest ally. Or sometimes, our minds have the power to be our greatest enemy. It's within our minds that we see and experience the world in either the light or the darkness. And through the power of our minds, we are able to alter the reality that we perceive to be truth.
We can see a man and a woman crying in church and our minds can perceive different scenarios.
Perhaps they are crying because they have finally been accepted in the church? Or perhaps they are crying because the message from the Pastor was hurtful to them?
We can choose to see the negative side of things or the positive side of things.
I believe that too many people choose to perceive that Friday the 13th is a day of negativity. They choose to believe that bad things will happen to them and as a result, bad things occur.
For the past several years, I have perceived Friday the 13th as a positive day. A day that good things can happen. And you know what, I have had no bad lucks on the past Friday the 13ths in many years. I may not have had miracles or amazing life changes on these days. But they were still positive days and I am thankful for that.
So how can we make the change to see the world from a negative light and see it in a more colorful light?
It’s very easy in the morning to wake up and first thing we say is, “Today is going to suck”. But how do we know the day is going to suck?
I don’t believe that anyone truly sees the future. We can guess and we can have assumptions that are close, but we can truly never know what the future has in store for us.
The future has surprised me on more than one occasion and it’s through these surprises that I know that I can truly never know the future.
So how do I know its going to be a bad day? I don’t.
How do I know its going to be a good day? I don’t.
The definitions of good and bad are not as cut and dry as we were led to believe.
For example, a woman worked all day in a high stress job. She’s been on her feet for several hours and she hasn’t had a chance to take a break. She gets home at the end of the day and comes home to a loving spouse and a maybe a child or a pet.
Was this a good day or a bad day?
You can say it was bad because of the stress from her job. Or you can say it was good because in the end, she came home to be with the people she loved.
In all honestly, its really not up to us to determine the quality of another person’s day. The only person who can do that is the person living through the experience of the day.
However, it is my hope that for all of us who choose to see and experience the negative sides of our days, we can make the decision to see the day in a more positive light.
You’d be surprised just how much your day will be better once you step out of the shadows.
Things wont’ become easier, but there is a good chance you will be happier.
As a wonderful Minister and a positive role model always says, “It’s the Best Day Ever!” (Rev. Allison Lanza).
So Happy Friday the 13th Everyone! May it be “the Best Day Ever!” and may you be fully embrace your Ruah while celebrating the positive energy that is all around us!